I would like to have the clients query each other through the server without delay ( = no polling interval ).
Example: Server S, clients A and B
Client A wants to request Client B. Client A will make a request to the server S, no problem there. Then Server S needs to be able to request Client B but how to do that without polling?
All the node.js/APE (for PHP) technos are designed for the web, however I don't use a web server for that. Does Java has something close to a push technology/framework that is not web?
I would really prefer a solution that doesn't require each client to use their own reserved port (I don't want to end up with 1 WebService per client for example)
Note: all the clients are on the same machine.
A couple of options...
Plain socket communication. java.net.Socket, java.net.ServerSocket. Maximum flexibility but requires knowledge of low level TCP/IP API/concepts.
The good old RMI. Java based RPC layer on top of TCP/IP. Works good when client and server are both in Java and generally in same subnet. May give problems when client and/or server are natted.
Spring Remoting, it's actually pretty decent.
Bi-Directional Web Services. i.e. clients host their own WSes which the Server calls when it needs to do a callback.
JMS as someone already mentioned.
Distributed Data Structures, Check out http://www.hazelcast.com/
Lots of options to chose from, no need for webserver.