I am able to connect tableau with my database but the table size is really large here. Everytime I try to load the table into tableau, it is crashing and I am not able to find any work around. The table size varies from 10 million - 400 million rows. How should I approach this issue any suggestion ?
You don't "load" data into Tableau, you point Tableau at an external data source. Then Tableau sends a query to the external data source requesting only the summary info (aka query results) needed to create the visualization you designed.
So, for an extreme example, if you place CNT(Number of Records) on the Columns shelf, Tableau will send a simple short query to the external database asking it to report the number of records. Something along the lines of "select count(*) from xxx".
So even if there are billions of rows in the external database, Tableau will send a small amount of information to the database (a query) and receive back a small amount of information (the query results) to display. This allows Tableau to be very fast on its end, and performance depends on how fast the external database can respond to the query. Tuning your database depends on all kinds of factors: type and amount of memory and disk, how indices are set up, etc.
So the first step is to make sure that the database can perform as needed, regardless of Tableau.
That's the purist response. Now for a few messy details. It is possible to design a very complex visualization in Tableau that will send a complex query asking for a very large result set. For instance, you can design a dashboard that draws a dot on the map for every row in the database, and then refreshes a large volume of data everytime you wave the mouse over the marks on the map.
If you have millions or billions of data rows, and you want high performance, then don't do that. No user can read 60 million dots anyway, and they certainly don't want to wait for them to be sent over the wire. Instead first plot aggregate values, min, max, sum, avg etc and then drill down into more detail on demand.
As others suggest, you can use a Tableau extract to offload workload and cache data in a form for fast use by Tableau. An extract is similar to an optimized materialized view stored in Tableau. Extracts are very helpful with speeding up Tableau, but if you want high performance, filter and aggregate your extracts to contain only the data and level of detail needed to support your views. If you blindly make an extract of your entire database, you are simply copying all your data from one form of database to another.