Is there a query with which i can exchange the values of two rows with single query?
you can see the solution in this article
http://www.microshell.com/database/sql/swap-values-in-2-rows-sql/
look at the : The elegant way , make a join to get the data from the 2 rows to be swapped in 1 row, after that make an update is easy.
example :
UPDATE
rules AS rule1
JOIN rules AS rule2 ON
( rule1.rule_id = 1 AND rule2.rule_id = 4 )
SET
rule1.priority = rule2.priority,
rule2.priority = rule1.priority
;