I do not know if its just my computer, but netbeans is taking an insane amount of time just to open. I'm wondering is there anything i can do to mitigate this problem.
(Like maybe if i reduce the amount of tabs opened in netbeans it may speed things up or something)
Reinstall from scratch is usually the best way to go. Your netbeans installation is probably slowed down by all the plugins, settings, files, cache, old files, and other stuff that its trying to load at startup. Backup your .netbeans profile folder, delete the old one, download a new netbeans installation (netbeans itself might of collected old files), and restore your settings.
If that doesn't speed things up, then really the only thing you can do is upgrade the computer