I have setup a system where I have taken the model first approach as it made more logical sense for me. Now when even I have some changes in the model currently what I do is -
Question : The main problem is that is really tedious and since I do it from my local system, connecting to my prod databases is very slow and sometimes my visual studio also crashes. Is there a more cleaner approach to do this? Which is more automated such that my laptop is not really responsible for the database migrations on the production instances?
You can try Database Migration Power Pack - it allows creating change scripts instead of full database scripts but on behind it does the same procedure as you did by hand. The problem is that mentioned tool will not work with EF5.
Unfortunately EF migrations currently don't support models created through EDMX. Migrations support only code first approach at the moment.